Value and Acknowledge Your Cheerleaders

GIVE ME AN  ‘L’ ! I Love you too, cheesy goodness.

Everyone, regardless of whether they are a writer or not, needs cheerleaders in their life.

You may call yourself a misanthropist and aspire to cave dwell for the rest of your days. However, you will shrivel up and die without a pom pom or two being shook for your cause, efforts, or for being plain old you.

We all need encouragement and praise from time to time.

Writers require this in abundance. We are needy creatures. Just check out the particularly desperate ones who promote their books every five seconds on social media, or respond to each of your posts and comments with a link back to, you’ve guessed it, their recently published book, as evidence. By the way, we’re not all that shallow. Some of us actually engage with you.

I learned the importance of cheerleading when I was a teacher. Students perform better and will make more of an effort if they know you’re rooting for them.

I didn’t give false praise as a means of motivation. I would never tell a semi-literate child that he/she was the next Shakespeare. Heaven knows, we could all do without that writing monstrosity being added to the future slush pile, when our work is itching to be read alongside it. However, I did praise genuine effort and  improvement, regardless of ability.

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GIVE ME AN ‘I’ . Why thank you my pasta friend of Italian carbs loveliness.

I came to understand that teachers also need a supportive squad. To be told that I was doing a pretty good job every now and again saved me from a potential twisted love affair with wine.

In any role we have, we could all do with getting some praise and support.

When your boss tells you that the decisions you made to help a sick patient, in your position as a doctor, were informed and compassionate, you beam.

When your partner expresses their gratitude for the amazing job you do in raising the kids, it makes it worthwhile. You’re also less likely to throw the little darlings out of a moving car.

When a customer thanks you for great service, you feel the warm and fuzzies and begin to believe that maybe they aren’t all objectionable arseholes.

We all need to hear the cheers every now and again.

We also need to acknowledge the ones doing the cheerleading.

Don’t just absorb the cheers, send them right back!

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GIVE ME AN  ‘S’ ! Oh coffee, life does not happen without you.

I began full-time writing earlier this year. I could not have made that decision without the support of the husband. He believed in me when I didn’t. He still believes in me when I don’t.

Without this man constantly shaking the shininess of love and chocolate at me, I wouldn’t continue. He is the best chief cheerleader ever, although slightly too hairy for the cheerleader’s skirt.

Then there is a fab woman who has been there for eons; the best friend. She has seen the ugliness of aspects of my life and still believes in a perceived beauty of what I can achieve.

We move on to those higher up the cheerleaders’ pyramid; the friends and family that give the odd holler and a shimmy. They make it worth the battle too.

Right at the top, stretching their legs out and showing off because they deserve to, are the fabulous readers and followers of this blog and my Facebook page. Give yourselves a cheer because you are flipping marvellous.

You could all leave this blog right now *separation anxiety ramped up to 1000*  but it wouldn’t be the same. When you show me you exist through your written and verbal comments, I’m encouraged that my writing has created an interaction between us.

Cheerleaders rock

This world would be a gloomy place without those little beauties bouncing about and jiggling what their mother gave ’em – although some of you seriously need to consider investing in a sports bra.

Do nice things for your cheerleaders to thank them, even if it’s not your thing. They do it for you. Do you seriously think that people want to keep hearing your weird ideas for your novel, or help you come up with a name for the monster that lives under the bed at 1am (sorry husband)?

Go find your cheerleaders right now and show them some love. Shout ‘Go team’, talk about dating, prom etc… You can so tell I am not American right now can’t you? Apologies USA.

Okay, Brit version: tell your mate he’s not such a bad bloke whilst punching him in the arm, buying him a pint, feel awkward for initiating physical contact, call him something derogatory, and then move on quickly to watching the football.

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GIVE ME AN  ‘A’ ! No chocolate, the glory is all yours, you freaking goddess.

P.S. I’d list all my cheerleaders here but I’m sure with the length of my posts anyway you’ve possibly lost the will to live by this stage. Therefore I may get away without naming you all and then I can figure out who cared enough to read to the bottom when they thank me for such a gushing post. If you did, you are flaming awesome. If they didn’t bother, we knew they were self-serving gits anyway didn’t we?

L. I.  S.  A.  What do we have? A very full, heavily caffeinated and thankful Lisa.

About Lisa Sell

Lisa Sell is a fiction writer and blogger. When not wrestling with words she can be found showing the love for chocolate, cheese, coffee, the cat, and the Husband. Not particularly in that order.

28 comments on “Value and Acknowledge Your Cheerleaders

  1. Totally agree. Until I got my group of writer friends (mainly through Scrib) I’d never stuck at a writing project. We all need friends to tell us we’re great, tell us when we can do better, and give us a hug when we’re down. 🙂

  2. I love this! I wish had more cheerleaders in my life. They just think my blog is a joke. I’m not even sure any of them have visited it. So for now I’m my own cheerleader 😉

    1. Huge apologies for not replying sooner! WordPress wasn’t notifying me of comments made for a while. So frustrating!

      I don’t have a large friendship network so I do understand. I also found blogging at the beginning incredibly lonely and hard. I still don’t have the hundreds of followers we are told we must have, and I’m fine with that. I want genuine, interested readers, not numbers.

      Cherish the one person who reads your blog and comments one day. It took me ages to get there. Start small and show them how grateful you are for them.

      By the way, your blog is not a joke because you take it seriously. It’s your thing and you never need to apologise for it. I’ll let you into a little secret, you will have more strangers engaging with your blog than friends and family. It’s odd and it can hurt but so many writers and bloggers tell me this is the case.

      I’m off to check your blog out right now, so there you go! Keep at it!

      1. Aw thanks for the words of encouragement. I’m not looking to have hundreds of followers either. I honestly just have some knowledge on certain topics so I want others to know they have these resources at their finger tips!

    1. Huge apologies for not replying sooner! WordPress wasn’t notifying me of comments made for a while. So frustrating!

      Absolutely. We wouldn’t get anywhere without them.

  3. I’m lucky enough to have a husband cheerleader too. They’re a wonderful source of support – albeit, definitely too hairy for the skirts 😉 Even when I get grumpy he’s still there to tolerate the tantrums and self-doubt and tell me I can do this.

    Some writers advise not to give friends your books to beta read as you don’t get quality feedback. Well, a good friend offered to beta read my current WIP (which I’ve been riddled with self-doubt over) and she gave me spot on critical feedback as well as a good dose of pom-pom shaking and I’ve decided feedback in such a combination is the best ever!

    Thanks for the post Lisa! I need to thank my cheer squad soon.

  4. Supportive partners definitely keep writers going! Mine has to put up with the mood swings and self-doubt too, bless him!

    I’ve heard that advice about beta readers too. With all writing advice, it’s best to take and modify what works for you. If you’ve got a supportive friend who’s not afraid to critique, why not get them to do it? I know my friends would soften any blows with chocolate, so it’s a winning situation after all!

    Thanks for reading and commenting. I love hearing from you!

  5. I love this topic. My biggest cheerleaders now are the people I was closest to in college. I remember hearing back then that the people we befriend in college will be friends for life, and this turned out to be so true. I really enjoy your wit – especially this line “To be told that I was doing a pretty good job every now and again saved me from a potential twisted love affair with wine.” Ha!

    1. Huge apologies for not replying sooner! WordPress wasn’t notifying me of comments made for a while. So frustrating!

      Old friends are often the best. My best friend has been in my life for 22 years and she knows me like no one else ever could (apart from the husband of course).

      Wine is a teacher’s best friend by the way but after a day of feral classes and mountains of marking, the next day it is most definitely your enemy!

    1. Huge apologies for not replying sooner! WordPress wasn’t notifying me of comments made for a while. So frustrating!

      Thanks so much for taking the time to read and comment Anu. I know you tried hard to make sure you did!

  6. This was AWESOME! Love your writing! If you ever come to America I’ll buy you a proper pint! I won’t punch you in the arm nor will I call you anything mean – but I will thank you for inspiring me to write more!

    1. Huge apologies for not replying sooner! WordPress wasn’t notifying me of comments made for a while. So frustrating!

      Oooh, pint wars! America or British pints? Controversial! Well not for me, beer is beer… Thanks for such lovely words. Keep on writing and drinking. Probably not at the same time.

    1. Huge apologies for not replying sooner! WordPress wasn’t notifying me of comments made for a while. So frustrating!

      My husband is amazing but even he agreed after reading my post that he wouldn’t inflict his legs on the world in a short skirt!

  7. I love everything about this post Lisa! I relate so very much. My cheerleading squad keep me going! I couldn’t do it without them.

    I truly believe that support is the 2nd most valuable currency in the Universe (gratitude is the 1st)! And I am so grateful that you have a squad to keep you going and remind you that you’re brilliant… because you’re so brilliant! And you’re living proof that pasta is not just for eating! LOL

    Thank you for shining your light <3

    1. Huge apologies for not replying sooner! WordPress wasn’t notifying me of comments made for a while. So frustrating!

      We just wouldn’t be where we are without our cheerleaders in any aspect of our lives. Thanks so much for such kind words and for being so supportive. You’re on board the cheering team!

    1. Huge apologies for not replying sooner! WordPress wasn’t notifying me of comments made for a while. So frustrating!

      I finally got it fixed after all the attempts you made to reply! Thanks for trying so many times Anu and for your lovely comments!

  8. Without the support of my family, friends, and amazing writer’s group I wouldn’t be where I am today. I definitely need to get more chocolate for people! And mead. And whatever else folks prefer.

    Being American, I’m taking notes on your British thank you, since I do have Brits I wish to thank for cheering me on. Pints, it is!

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