The Blog Police return!
The Blog Police (TM) rear their ugly heads again (see ‘Kitty, Cat, Moggy, Feline Fest’ post for an earlier
rant assessment of their practices).
Apparently blog posts should not be all about the writer. The standard advice that keeps popping up on t’interweb is to depersonalise your blog so that the reader doesn’t tire of you writing about yourself. Apparently they are then bestowed a more ‘pleasing neutral experience’.
Every blog has its place. Business blogs definitely benefit from a ‘me’ deficit. They entice us by centering it all around our needs. We know it’s not really that altruistic, but we play the game. We all want ‘the things’ every now and again.
It could be said that as this is a writer’s blog, set up by a writer, who will hopefully be published and sell books one day, that I am marketing myself. Sort of true.
Stop. Confession time*
* said with MC Hammer type authority, whilst jiggling about in harem pants and looking like I need the toilet*.
I started this blog because I thought I needed to rustle up future readers and that should be its sole purpose. I am ashamed to admit it. I will go to my room and think about my actions once I’ve finished writing this post. Please hear me out in the meantime.
I naively thought relentless self-promotion was what I was supposed to do. I didn’t know any better. I took the wrong advice. I apologise to those of you who signed up from the off and may feel somewhat hoodwinked. Please stay. I’ve changed!
As I contributed more and more to the blogosphere, I realised that I just wasn’t that kind of girl. I know for a writer there has to be some self-belief to lay your heart and imagination on the line, and into the hands of sometimes savage readers.
If I proclaim myself ‘writer’, it stands to reason that I must have some ego business going on too, BUT…
I’m not great at standing in the spotlight, receiving praise or derision. I am a self-doubter. That may be hard to believe if you don’t know me. Do I come across as a confident and gregarious woman? Had you fooled then. If I didn’t, darn you and your honesty.
I can relate to others and string sentences together, usually after 10am. However, I am not comfortable in standing out, even less, shameless self-promoting. But there is a writery/blogging game to be played. In usual Lisa fashion, nowadays I am trying to do it my way, whilst taking the best advice.
I am sure there are people who have dropped by this blog and left because it mainly focuses upon my experiences with writing, and not disclosing the secrets to having a better life. To each their own. We all have the freedom to choose what we read.
In my humble opinion, like any writer or blogger should, I’d rather have genuine followers and readers who enjoy what I offer than falsely boosting the stats like a possessed mathematician.
I want to meet writers and readers, and engage with, learn from, and have many. possibly inappropriate, laughs with you.
To my current and future folIowers and readers; I love and value every interaction I have with you. I hope you’ve noticed that I take time writing my posts and treat them with the same care that I give to my fiction writing. I do this because I love to write. Blogging is writing, after all.
Engagement over shameless self-promotion
Rest assured that I do not take advantage of anyone who signs up to the ‘Lisa show’. You may read my books in the future, you may not *shrugs and pretends that’s not an issue whilst creating a future hit list*.
I always aim to treat you as human beings, not potential punters or numbers in a ‘Help me hit 1000/2000/1,000,000 likes by the end of the day’ manner. Sure, I’ll hit the target if I plead loudly enough, but I can guarantee that those people will eventually unfollow. Then it all gets very ‘Groundhog Day’ trying to draw the ‘numbers’, er people, back to hit the golden target.
‘The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.’
This brings me to the heart of where this post and my blog lie. It’s about the personal touch – not that kind of personal touch, you perv – in taking what is personal to me and relating it to you, so you might relate, writer or not.
I share my writing news via social media in my own little way, because that is what a writer must do. I don’t have an agency behind me. My husband, family and friends shake the pom poms, which is massively appreciated, but it doesn’t create wide ripples in writery world. Keep on shaking though people, you look fabulous.
Blog Police (TM), one size does not fit all. Some of us actively choose to be personal and ‘small’ bloggers and enjoy it. This blog is not vanity. It is what I do. I write.
No offence to my fellow bloggers, but I know nowt about the latest hot lipstick shade, how to be super mum, the uber-stretchy yoga pose, or 100 ways to make your life better. Kudos to those who do.
I just know how to write about my writing and my life shenanigans. What you see is what you get.
If you landed up here by accident or because you needed to fulfil a social media group’s obligation to like.comment or follow (I know who you are), Mac’s latest hue is ‘My Little Pony Puked Up All The Pink, the ‘Aargh, are you kidding me, this is creating a hernia’ pose is all the rage in yoga, lock your kid in a cupboard to ward off a breakdown, and there is only one way to make your life better; be you and learn that being you is the best thing.
See, all your needs have just been covered right here. Who says it’s all about me?